This, as I am certain you have noticed, is an era of great vulgarity in communication. Our most popular television programs include Embarrassing Bodies, a low documentary which regularly exposes the prolapsed anuses of Britain, and perhaps our best-known local lifestyle celebrity is Pete Evans, a man who has also lately turned public attention to the fundament. When local commentators of note are not literally focused on the latrine, they flush away all the restraint of a previous age via their social media accounts, and we see the stars of Fairfax or of News Corp openly call each other some of the worst words in English, and even occasionally wish the other dead.
It would, of course, be true hypocrisy for a vulgarian like me to urge for a new civility. I acquired the habit of filth at an early age, and there is no Finishing School so firm that it could cleanse me. Further, we know that obscene speech is hardly new and has, at times, like the French Revolution, proved politically effective. Even if there were no moral case to make for jokes about the genitals of leaders, though, the case for greater civility in speech would remain a pointless one to make. You can’t tell entire populations, individuals or groups to speak well and expect them to answer with anything but “fuck off”. When such moral injunctions are made, they are only likely to produce more cursing.
This is an age when the world’s most powerful political figure uses his Twitter account to call the leaders of other states schoolyard names, where terms like “fascist” or “Nazi” are wielded by his opponents so often and uncritically that they no longer signify the horror that they should, and one in which a man can easily stand before a sign that names the prime minister of Australia a “bitch” and himself become a prime minister.
Let’s agree, then, that the hope for civil Western speech is dead, perhaps even agree that the kind of “respectful debate” or tasteful wit for which so many publicly long, never really lived anywhere much outside the work of philosophy, or the novels of Nancy Mitford. To hope for mass culture to reflect the sort of nice speech that was only ever uttered by those who acquired it in elite conditions is futile. For centuries in the West, the overwhelming majority could not read, let alone speak politely to the thoughts of Jeremy Bentham, or whoever.
We may have historical record of great men writing graciously about urgent moral questions. What we have scant record of is those millions enslaved in mines and factories and fields who were, I’ll bet, not speaking often in the minutes between hard labour and sleep of whether the ends were justified by the means, or the other way ‘round.
You want liberal democracy? You got it. Its speech must engage most, and most are either working long hours, or worrying for long hours about how to find work. Paid labour and underemployment are difficult and time-consuming. Higher education is expensive and time-consuming. Between the search for work, the grind of work or the increasingly vocational nature of study — I have met very few commerce graduates who show any signs at all of training in “respectful debate” — the speech for which we long but rarely utter cannot take root.
This is not, for a minute, to say that most people are stupid. Most people simply have time to interact with nothing but stupid speech. I am of the optimistic view that it takes just one or two deep interactions with true argument for the nature of thought to reveal itself. If you are fortunate enough to be exposed to it, philosophy can easily, and very naturally, become a compulsion for anyone. We are not exposed to it. Which doesn’t stop politicians — who, if they were ever themselves exposed to the elegant shape of argument, have clearly forgotten what they learned — from urging for “respectful debate”.
It doesn’t stop media commentators either. From Andrew Bolt to the most earnest writers at The Guardian, we read about the need for elevated speech, considered argument, etc. In both cases, and we see this so keenly on the “respectful debate” around the same-sex marriage survey, the assumption of the commentator is always that they are engaged in good speech, and if they are not, well, it was the bad behaviour of the other side that made them lose their temper. If only you would talk to me in the way I would talk to you if you weren’t such an idiot/snowflake/Nazi, then we could have a “respectful debate”.
Politicians show us very little respect. They have created or permitted precisely the conditions — wage stagnation, long work hours, mortgage stress, the alienation of underemployment, unaffordable education — in which the tools or the hope for “respectful debate” are unavailable to most. And most media commentators simply start from a foundation not of thought, but of antagonism. They rarely even “debate” matters of grave importance, but simply “debate” the way they are spoken about. And so, we have this peculiar set of local commentators who offer little but vulgarity, and explain their vulgarity as necessary, because the other side made them do it. I mean, please, could someone point me to that foundational text by either Chris Kenny or Clementine Ford that was not written only in the terms of obscene opposition, and shows any sign whatsoever of wishing to engage in reason?
Rage and vulgarity have their place, of course. Showing a middle finger to the other side is sometimes very necessary. But, hey, now in our purportedly democratic institutions of government and press, that’s all we’ve got. Most everyone with a public platform or policy role is making like they are the true voice of the resistance, the opponent of the marginalised or the warrior against the purported menace of the “politically correct”, and so few have legitimate belief in the power of sound argument.
Still. Most everyone seems to want it. Most everyone appears to believe that a nation full of Respectful Debaters is somehow possible, even under the harshest everyday conditions that Australian workers have encountered in many decades. These arguments we read so often about the necessity of free speech, the need for respectful speech, the need to control speech by law or not to control it, etc, have begun to seem almost religious to me. We have faith in a thing that does not take place, and cannot take place without a radical re-organisation of the way this nation is governed. And this faith is itself evangelically declared by hypocritical preachers who show no talent or interest whatsoever in the beautiful speech for which they hope.
In this moment, this hypocrisy is so evident. We have a Prime Minister who urges for “respectful debate” around a mail survey that he knew very well could only produce its opposite. He was warned, very explicitly by qualified advocates for mental health, that this would happen, that he was creating conditions hostile to many Australians.
In my view, this is a very low point for “respectful debate”. Not only will many LGBTIQ Australians suffer badly from all this “respect”. The institutions of press and of politics have suffered a loss as well. They do not seem to know that we are watching them talk among themselves about who is the least and most “respectful”, so utterly separated in their reflections from the real-life consequences of this, or any other, debate. These appalling cultural warriors who dispose of any regard for the LGBTIQ community. These shallow “allies” who assume a posture of great compassion far less to advance the life of the nation, much more to mark themselves as desirable commodities for future sale to purportedly “respectful” publications.
A few years ago, I would have implored all policymakers and commentators to learn the skill of true argument, which is, by its very nature, respectful. I have lost hope for these zealots, so sure that their own speech is transformative. My hope is for others. Those who are sick of the emptiness of speech about speech. Those who crave a better nation where we each have the time and the means to argue meaningfully and democratically about many matters, and so to truly progress as individuals and as a society.
“This is not, for a minute, to say that most people are stupid. Most people simply have time to interact with nothing but stupid speech.”
I admire your faith in human nature, however it is as delusional as an imagined return to “respectful debate”.
In the Philippines we are now witnessing a “backlash” against Rodrigo Duterte from many of the same people who enthusiastically voted for him. Why? Because the extra-judicial killing he’s openly endorsed happened to extra-judicially kill someone THEY are sympathetic to.
But as long as vigilantes are randomly executing people they don’t know then they are perfectly ok with it, devout Catholics and all! Fist-pump for death squads!
Yet another example of an entirely predictable outcome resulting from warnings ignored, moral hypocrisy and complete and utter stupidity. Yes, stupidity. The type of stupidity that can ONLY react, and cannot exercise any forward thinking or basic critical scepticism.
Hence the only way to “save” democracy will be to ensure that every voter has the policies THEY voted for applied first and foremost to themselves and their electorate. We can look forward to family farms being dug up for coal mines, leafy inner suburban enclaves being demolished and replaced with flammable tower blocks and negative gearers being denied access to the public infrastructure they don’t actually pay for.
Then, and only then, we might see a change in the political landscape. In the meantime it’s basically two torch-bearing lynch mobs bearing down on each other with pitchforks at the ready.
Call me old fashioned, but when I learned the skills of debating as a secondary school student (ok, it was the sixties…), the principles were to put a reasoned argument, listen carefully to the opposing arguments and rebut them with carefully considered counterpoints. I see no evidence of these principles among our politicians or”commentators” today: shouting insults and untruths at each other is not debate.
You forgot the most important step…
When the “time to go home” bell is within 10min of ringing, the next speaker must say, “We forfeit”.
This was the 80s, so they held out for quite some time…
Nice, Helen, and no that wasn’t meant to enrage you. There was a time that ‘nice’ was a good thing.
I was inspired to thing upon reading an article from Tom Switzer this week. That’s a first. He quite rightly, I thought, pointed out that people advocating a no vote on SSM were being shouted down and made to feel pariahs, and that this was a bad thing.
What Tom didn’t engage with was the context, which was the arguments proffered that “I am voting no because: my son will have to wear a dress to school; I’m against political correctness; my religious freedom will be curtailed; after this someone will be able to marry the harbour bridge”.
What this does is put forward an argument that inherently implies that I am an idiot. The unstated implications can be reasonable grounds to respond with ‘fuck off’. Switzer was right in one sense, but put forward not one good reason to support the no case, and as much as I am in favour of SSM, I’m sure there may be good arguments against it, if only someone from the that spectrum could provide one.
The position that “I am going to vote no because all the do-gooders are shouting me down” is not a bad reason in itself, I’ve probably taken recourse to similar motives myself, on other platforms. But please, if you want respectful debate, be honest. How about “I’m voting no because I have some uneasy feelings about it that I can’t quite grasp or enunciate”.
At least that level of honesty does not inspire anger, and allows room for difference of opinion. But arguments which are concocted on the flimsiest of indirect possible outcomes, or downright lies, do inspire angry responses. The unchristian Aust Christian Lobby have treated us as dolts and imbeciles with their arguments (yeah, not so much arguments as diatribes)
The irony that a human choice to vote no, and thus continue to treat a group in society as pariahs, leaves those voting no feeling like pariahs, is not lost on me.
Do I believe that all people are stupid? No, not all, but the percentages I imagine change on a daily and hourly basis. I hope and have faith, in spite of the body of evidence before me.
“I was inspired to thing” ha ha. Yes, I meant ‘think’. Oops.
“How about “I’m voting no because I have some uneasy feelings about it that I can’t quite grasp or enunciate”. Beautifully put, Dogs. Hard to do in practice though: intellectual humility’s right up there with do unto others.
I think respect for evidence, reason, human dignity and public benefit is not the same as courtesy toward dishonesty, cynicism and willful ignorance. It was Jonathan Swift who pointed out that *Reasoning will never make a Man correct an ill Opinion, which by Reasoning he never acquired* (1721).
But knowledge is expensive to acquire, slow to refine and painstaking to disseminate, while opinions are cheaper, more abundant and spread like kitchen cockroaches. While ever our communications sector can be funded purely by attention-seeking, it can safely ignore the demands of building, sustaining and distinguishing knowledge.
However, this is now a cultural malaise, not just a political one: having flourished for generations it’s now rooted in language, custom and national identity. With its self-absorbed notions of identity politics and absolute adherence to relativism, the left did most of the intellectual damage to a public understanding of what truth and knowledge mean. But it was the right which turned exploiting it into sacred tradition.
Neither now has a solution. Both are now part of the problem, and neither will admit it.
Honestly I think the solution is to move away from the whole “It’s my opinion” as being an acceptable cop out. When did opinions become inviolable?
Most people who have formed an opinion based on identity politics will avoid critically analyzing it because it’s easier to fall back on the old “well it’s my opinion, deal with it suckaaaa!” than it is to actually apply any formal logic to it and reach the conclusion that, shit… Maybe we’re a bit off-kilter with this one.
In the context of SSM, I’ve taken to asking people to answer sequentially:
1. Do you believe in the principle of a secular society?
2. Do you you oppose Same Sex Marriage because it is different from the definition of Marriage you take from your religion?
3. You believe in freedom of religion and recognize that your opposition to Same Sex Marriage is because it doesn’t match your religious definition of marriage. How have you reconciled the contradiction in your beliefs of wanting to uphold a law for religious reasons with your other belief of wanting a secular society?
Now both you (and Jonathan Swift :P) are correct in that this is unlikely to change any minds. What it will do, however is force someone to recognize a cognitive dissonance and hopefully have them ask themselves “how can I hold two beliefs which aren’t even internally consistent?”
Either that or they’ll just make some bullshit comment about same sex marriage leading to pedophilia, polygamy, men being forced to don pink frilly dresses, pastors being dragged before the court for refusing to marry a couple of gay men, general fraying the social fabric of society(has anyone figured out what this means yet?) and then close it off with a quick “Help, help – I’m being oppressed! The silent majority!”
Also the cultural left are just as bad for doing this and frankly, probably worse. Maybe that’s just confirmation bias for me though; ’cause it tilts me something chronic when I see “our team” being a pack of idiots.
The problem is that people have bad arguments and specious reasons for opposing same sex marriage. The proponents of “no” do not want to address the issues.
Should we differentiate between same sex couples and other couples who seek social recognition of their attempt to live a happy life with one another? In particular, should we do it because some people believe that their religion instructs them to discriminate against same sex couples: it tells them, they think, that they can refuse accommodation to same sex couples; that they refuse other services, such as baking a wedding cake for them. This is simply unacceptable conduct and religion provides no excuse. Many, probably most, religious people in Australia accept that they cannot impose their religious beliefs on others. In a society where many have different beliefs from theirs, they must restrict their religious practice to what should be acceptable to others: they can have freedom of conscience and express their views freely. But they cannot attack others in the name of their religion.
Nor will same sex marriage lead to “safe sex” education programs in schools. After all, these programs have arisen in the absence of same sex marriage. They are, in fact, the result of trying to reduce prejudice and ostracism directed at gays or lesbians, or others whose sexuality differs from the most common form. Malcolm Turnbull cheerfully informs us that he respects the view of every Australian on the matter. Unfortunately, there is a tiny minority that believes same couples should be stoned to death. I do not respect this belief and I think the overwhelming majority do not either.
Freedom of religion for reasonable religions that respect and tolerate the different views of others should be accepted. But unreasonable religions should be opposed where they attempt to impose their views on others.