In a blue tent next to the road leading into Ukraine’s border crossing in Siret, Romania, emergency psychologist Melinda* is perched on the end of a bed, talking to a child in distress.
Soft toys and colourful blocks sit on a table at the foot of the bed. Refugees and volunteers stroll past the canvas structure as trucks carrying supplies rumble past. On the outside of the tent, a sign sways in the wind: “You are not alone”, it reads.
More than 4.3 million Ukrainians have fled their country since Russia invaded six weeks ago, with an estimated 6.5 million internally displaced. Many have witnessed atrocities, lost family members or are struggling with the stress of leaving their homes, husbands, fathers and brothers behind. Most flee with only what they can carry.
Psychologists run off their feet offering help
Melinda is here to offer mental health support for refugees crossing the border, seeing children from aged four to the elderly. She speaks English, Russian, Romanian and Spanish and has a translator when needed. She says the child she’s currently treating, who is also permanently paralysed, is in a particularly “nasty” situation requiring intervention.
The child’s father tells me she’s having a mental crisis. Melinda walks with the girl’s mother to collect supplies from the Red Cross. The couple’s car, which they drove from Ukraine, is jam-packed with clothes, water and valuables. Their pug barks at passers-by.
Melinda is run off her feet — in the month since she’s been working in Siret she’s seen close to 100 people a week, including volunteers “struggling with strong emotions”. Sessions range from an hour down to just 15 minutes: express therapy to check in on people before their bus departs for another destination.
“We have to adapt our emergency psychological intervention to this schedule,” Melinda tells Crikey.
“Safety is the biggest concern — sometimes they don’t trust the people they’re going to other countries with. They are scared, some are traumatised from the war.” She’s also aware of people at other border crossings who have required psychological assistance for sexual violence, but she hasn’t treated any cases herself.
“We’re trying to reduce secondary anxiety,” she says. “Sometimes they’re anxious about their anxiety, and we’re trying to normalise those normal emotions that rise up in abnormal situations. It’s our job to keep them safe, calm and prepared for their trip.”
Breaking point
Acute mental health crises are common at border crossings. Many refugees manage to hold themselves together until they reach safety before breaking down.
At a converted sports stadium in Dumbrăveni, also in Romania, one woman had to be escorted to the hospital by security during an episode of psychosis, threatening to hurt herself and others.
Another woman starts sobbing and screaming the second she makes it into the safety of the blue tents in Siret, waiting for paperwork to be finalised so she can be transported to Spain. She lost her mother during the journey and is inconsolable. Volunteers work to locate her family, and after a few hours of coordinating with border crossing staff, they were able to get in contact with her mother.
“Some of them haven’t spoken or expressed their feelings until the moment they cross the border, so it’s important to offer a safe space,” Melinda says. For children, sometimes all that consists of is playing music, drawing and listening.
The music makes for an eerie addition to the site — one child given a harmonica plays a sad, off-key tune sitting on a bed in the blue shadow of the tent. His mother passed away several years ago and he made the border crossing from Chernivtsi — a city that has so far avoided damage — with his father. His dad says the boy doesn’t know the country is at war.
Teens are a key concern
At an NGO-run transit hub in Warsaw, comprising large, heated, white tents nestled in the snow on a sports field opposite the Warsaw East train station, paramedic and volunteer Sylwia Jablonska says the biggest concern isn’t children, but adolescents.
“Children often don’t understand what’s happening — parents try to keep details from them,” she says. While some may be scared or have witnessed atrocities, Jablonska says adolescents are a major concern. They understand what is happening and are worried about their friends and families. Many Ukrainian adults, she says, had lived with the threat of war for all their lives, with some adapting better than others.
The hub has dedicated psychologists, and ambulances available to transfer those who need it to psychiatric care.
Rape, murder and warfare are not issues teens should have to worry about. But sitting in her dorm-style room at a shelter in Eastern Ukraine, Maria* urgently shows me text message exchanges between her class.
She fled her town, which lies just 60 kilometres west of Kyiv, with her mother, brother and his wife at the beginning of the war, seeking haven in the shelter while her father stayed behind to fight.
Her Year 7 teacher has gone missing and there are rumours in the class Telegram chat that she was being held captive and raped by Russians. She brings up the executions and war crimes in Bucha.
“I’m really, really scared of this information. I don’t want to believe it, but I read about it,” she tells Crikey.
“My mother cries every day — every single day she lies on the bed and cries.”
Maria said she has access to psychologists and is more worried about her mother, father and teacher than herself.
*Surnames withheld for privacy
Hard to read but thanks so much for this work. So important to bear witness and get this on the record.
Why don’t we ever get these type stories when we invade some country?
With invasions by ‘our side’, such as Afghanistan and Iraq, the victims and refugees are, to all intents and purposes, invisible.
In Ukraine, on the other hand, they are front and centre.
People say it’s because we are racists. I see some truth in this but I think it is also because of culturism on our part.
And I think war has become a PR exercise with a disinterested view abandoned for a manufactured image with the mainstream media complicit. We end up with propaganda instead of information.
And this is not confined to the corporate media; the ABC is right in there. When I hear or watch the ABC I can’t help but think the place is full of Russo and Sinophobes. I mean, Sabra Lane speaks of the ‘famed’ Azov brigade. The banner of this brigade is a Nazi symbol. They are neo-nazis. And the ABC consults with ASPI, a weapons industry funded think tank, on China – a surefire way to have China presented as an existential threat that must be stopped.
We can only be grateful that the internet still allows us to seek out news outlets in countries outside of the west so we can learn what the rest of the world is saying and so get a better idea of what is actually happening and why.
Could have all been avoided if the US had not intervened in a Sovereign Country’s internal affairs. War is futile for any civilian population, excluding American exceptionalism and imperialistic capitalism. In saying that the side I support is the resolution of disputes through peaceful means.
Questions always arise out of propaganda. I make no comment as to the the factual or otherwise of satellite photos being produced, but simply ask where are the satelite coverage of troops in Iraq and Afghanistan? Given the allegations of War Crimes in these theatres, pictures would be interesting.
Agreed.
This war has become the most publicized war in History, with multiple daily articles on TV News, Newspapers, Online forums, including Social Media, satellite imagery, first hand civilian interviews, and lots of “Analysts” pieces,
(Note: Analyst is the new word for an Opinion writer).
The thing with it is though is that we are getting a one sided version from a Ukrainian / Western, (read USA), viewpoint.
There’s the occasional statement out of Russia, but very little in the way of Russian leaders, (most likely because Russian Media and Internet sources have been shut down and censored from Public view).
It is also interesting how quickly people either forget or don’t want to talk about allegations of War Crimes by Western military forces in multiple wars, or the allegations in a 2016 report by the United Nations Office of the High Commissioner for Human Rights (OCHA) that accused the Azov regiment of violating international humanitarian law. The report detailed incidents over a period from November 2015-February 2016 where Azov had embedded their weapons and forces in used civilian buildings, and displaced residents after looting civilian properties. The report also accused the battalion of raping and torturing detainees in the Donbas region.
The AZOV battalion is part of the Ukraine military, that have been involved in fighting Russian separatists in the Donbas region for the last 8 years. In 2019, the group was placed under Facebook’s Tier 1 designation, which includes groups such as the Ku Klux Klan and ISIL (ISIS). Transnational support for Azov has been wide, and Ukraine has emerged as a new hub for the far right across the world.
A number of valid points, but re media censorship and there being “very little in the way of Russian leaders”, let’s remember that Putin did continually deny that he would invade Ukraine, even as his troops amassed in their thousands on the border. Let’s also remember that he is denying to his own population that there is even a war going on, and is hiding the death toll from them. I’m all for hearing others’ perspectives, but I’d hope it was at least grounded in reality. (And by the way, I can still access Russia Today; not sure which other pro-Russian sites may have been restricted here?)
Where were all the Psychologists for the Iraqi’s and Afghans when the US, Australia and UK invaded their sovereign nations? Wait. Silly me I forgot! They aren’t White, they aren’t in Europe and the West was doing the invading!
Julian Assange showed us some pictures. And they are interesting – very. And so is what is happening to him, but you’d never know it.
Oh, it’s a whataboutery troll!
No. it’s an indication that all of us, including you, are complicit in this savagery, so long as the veto power stands in the UNSC…..to preserve the “right” of nations to make war. It’s irrational and insane, in the age of MAD!.
Psychologists ought to be able to tell us this irrationality is the result of unconscious survival instincts in all of us, expressed in the aggregate by our governments, via the veto…..
Good points. Just a small typo in the first sentence: “Could have all been avoided if
the USRussia had not intervened in a Sovereign Country’s internal affairs.”Maidan Square, 2014 ring any bells?
Russia invading Ukraine, 2022 ring any bells?
The US invading Iraq, Afghanistan and multiple other countries ring a bell?
My point isn’t that the US didn’t do these things, it’s that Russia should be held responsible for its own act of aggression. Otherwise I might as well blame Russia for the US Iraq invasion.
The 2014 Maidan Coup was US backed which is where this entire mess originated.
Well, it suits your agenda to say it started then anyway. Apparently all US invasions are the fault of the US alone, with no historical contributing factors. But for Russian invasions we should look to an earlier act by the US and then blame them for it.
If there is any regime change involved in any country in the world you can pretty much count on it either being directed, coerced or funded by the United Snakes. Serbia ring a bell in 1999?
Read the Jakarta Method if you actually want to learn what the US gets up to. They are either directly, significantly or contributory to virtually every conflict that has occurred since the 1950’s.
Anytime the US has interfered with the politics of a Sovereign Nation to steer it in a US favorable direction, it has caused untold harm to that country in one way or another. The list of US invasions and casualties is beyond belief and yet you support them?
It’s not so much that I ‘support’ the US (obviously some of its actions are worthy of support, others of criticism); it’s rather that I don’t think any other country presents an appealing alternative as the world’s super power. Would you rather Russia or China in the role? The human rights abuses of both make the US look like an angel.
In any case, in this instance it is very clearly Russia who has overstepped the line by invading a sovereign country, lying to its own population about it, with strong evidence it is committing war crimes along the way. This is inexcusable aggression on Russia’s part (or rather on Putin’s part). The ‘US made me do it’ excuse doesn’t wash with me.
Very few US actions since the 1950’s are worthy of support and the majority are worthy of sanctions not just criticism. As to Russia and China, the US is certainly no Saint when it comes to both illegal invasions (Iraq and Afghanistan just to name two) and Human Rights (Abu Ghraib, Black Sites, Guantanamo, War Crimes, Race issues, suppression of voting rights, death penalty, National Security Laws used to suppress the Press, economic coercion of other countries etc etc). The US needs to be held to the same standard as all other countries and not continually be given a pass by “the West”.
If the Ukraine were not a White, European country, “the West” would not give a toss as they so clearly don’t give a toss when it’s members of “the West” being the aggressor.
The US good, Russia and China bad BS doesn’t cut it with me. The US is the cause of more aggression and deaths than any other nation.
A CHILD PLAYS THE HARMONICA
Haunting image, awful to read, but these stories need to be told.
Ghastly bloody nightmare
A virtuoso might play an harmonica with one hand, a bit, but a pushy photographer needing some emo pics. can easily pose a child.
This is one of the lamest points I’ve read in these pages. Are you really arguing that there’s such a shortage of heart-braking pictures from this humanitarian catastrophe that they have to be staged? I think you need to go and think about it some more.
Dunno about “heart-braking pictures” but they are certainly having a brain-braking effect on our Dianafied emoters & pearl clutchers, swooning on their fainting couches.
You are being a goose. If pointing out my typos (I’ve seen you make some too) is the best you’ve got then, really, why bother? As I said, go and think about it some more.
Thanks again, Amber, for insights that main stream media are not giving us here in Australia.